LUBE

There truly wasn't anything else I was willing to title this blog. 

Let's cut to the chase and go over some important reminders! 

• Wetness does not necessarily mean you're aroused
• Lack of wetness does not necessarily mean you're unaroused
• A person's natural lubrication can be greatly impacted by so many things, including but not limited to day of cycle, menopause, postpartum, dehydration, and medications like antihistamines, SSRI's, and birth control. 

For vaginal sex, not being well lubricated can not only be painful, but it can also make you more susceptible to UTIs. That said, being dry doesn't have to be the standard for using lubricant. Even those with natural wetness find that lubricant can help slip and slide their way into an enhanced sexual experience. For safe and comfortable anal sex, it is incredibly important to always use lube! While you can get lube in a regular bottle, there are suppositories and "lube launchers" (yes, they are called that, and I'll let you do the Googling). 

Thankfully, we have lubricants in all varieties to help smooth things along. As always, self play can be a low pressure way to explore the following different options: 

Water-based 

• Budget friendly and found everywhere (KY and Astroglide is likely at your local grocer or pharmacy). 
• Safe to use with condoms and toys. 
• Variety of textures from liquid to gel to jelly.
• Most common type of lube for flavors and sensations (aka "warming").
• Usually contain synthetic glycerin. For those that are more sensitive, while it as not as easy to find, many companies like Astroglide have a paraben and glycerin free variety. Glycerin is used to help with flavor so lubes without it might taste slightly bitter. 

Silicone

• Most resilient and will stay wet the longest (but since it doesn't absorb like water-based lube, you'll likely have to wash off with soap and water). 
• Usually hypoallergenic! 
• Disclaimer! Silicone couples don't get along. You think they're made for each other, but silicone lube on a silicone toy will destroy the outer layer of your toy, making it more porous and impossible to properly clean again. If you insist on using silicone toys with silicone lube, make sure you use a condom. Also, make sure your silicone toys aren't touching in storage or else you'll end up with an amorphous (and porous) vibrating blob.

Oil-based

• Natural oils like refined coconut and olive oil have been popular for external and internal vaginal play. Very accessible and affordable.
• Synthetic oils like mineral oil and Vaseline are not recommended for use. Prone to irritating the vulva and will destroy latex condoms.
• Disclaimer: Oil stains sheets and clothes and can destroy latex condoms. If you are using oil as lube, make sure you are using a condom made of nitrile, polyisoprene, or polyurethane.

​As always, there is no such thing as safe sex, only safER sex. Be good (or not) and have fun!


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